One thing I think a lot of us who are trying to make a transformation tend to neglect is the importance of letting go of who we were before. This means more than just rejecting it and hating it. Hating who we were, in particular, is dangerous because hatred necessitates a connection with something: you have to think about it passionately in order to hate it.
But, and this can be a challenge, truly letting go involves allowing the former self to be something even less than a memory--something that no longer has the rights, so to speak, to the storage room of things that comprise your identity. That includes the prefix "used to be" or "former" because even then you're allowing your present identity to be a function of who you were before.
But, and this can be a challenge, truly letting go involves allowing the former self to be something even less than a memory--something that no longer has the rights, so to speak, to the storage room of things that comprise your identity. That includes the prefix "used to be" or "former" because even then you're allowing your present identity to be a function of who you were before.