Building communication is essential and the fact that you and your spouse are different is absolutely normal. You don't have to fret because the language of men and women are different. All you need to do is understand the language of your spouse. As a man you'll need to understand your wife and verse versa. You have to be intentional about improving the quality of communication with your spouse. You spend time talking together. Most women just need to talk, share and express themselves, issues that concerns them and they need someone to listen, at this point, the men have to deliberately learn to listen without trying to solve any issue the woman put up..just listen and understand her. It may seem difficult at the beginning but you'll realize that as time goes by you feel comfortable listening and speaking with your wife. Communication becomes easy then. A man loves his woman when she can give him his own space at times, timing is important. You need to understand your man, approach him more lovingly, express more positive feelings. Even when expressing negative feelings, your feelings need to be communicated without bitterness, resentment, disappointment or disapproval...that way, he understands you better and strive to be better for you and not become defensive. In as much as spouses learn to listen to complaints without defense, the approach also matters. Compliment, appreciate and appraise your spouse more. There were things you loved when you fell in love with him or her. Physical Affection is also a form of communication..this should deliberately be worked on. Yeah understanding love languages and working on it is also Awesome.
As a man, Understand how different your wife is from you and try to love, understand and appreciate her difference..this will form how you relate and communicate with her. As a woman, you will be able to communicate with your husband better when you realize he's different from you and you relate with him with understanding of that difference.