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    Young adult books

    I really loved (and still do love) the Harry Potter series. I also loved the Book Thief, any book by Roald Dahl, and the Chronicles of Narnia.
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    Being Selfish

    I struggle with the same problem! I think you just need to keep in mind that people are more resilient than you think. They will still love you even if you turn down requests every now and then and think for yourself. If people don't, then they weren't worth it in the first place.
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    Goal: Moving to DC!

    You could try downloading some cashback apps like shopkick, ibotta, and getupside. It might take a while to see some results though
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    Journaling - do you do it? do you think it helps?

    I journal intermittently. I keep a diary and a folder on my laptop for random thoughts I need to get out, and I read through them sometimes. I was a little alarmed to see how negative they were, but then I realized that's because I always use it to feel better when I'm overwhelmed. I'm usually...
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    What did you study in school vs. what you do for a living?

    I just graduated college, and this is so encouraging! I have no idea what career I want to pursue moving forward. I'm a cognitive science and English major, and I think I want a career that involves helping people in some tangible way. I'm not sure if that means I should become some kind of...
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    Help: I can't make decisions without thinking of others.

    I am the exact same way, and I'm still struggling to figure out how to break out of this habit. As of now, I guess I just try not to think so far ahead in the future. I've realized I'm mostly so mindful of others' thoughts and feelings because I'm afraid that they won't like me if I don't put...
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    What do you do when you reach your goal?

    Set a new goal! Since you're current goal was to lose a certain amount of weight, maybe your new goal could be to maintain all or a few of your healthy habits and have the same weight in the next week or so. I think if you keep setting little goals like that - ones that are definitely achievable...
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    "All we have to decide is what to do with the time that's been given us"

    For any Lord of the Rings fans out there, I'm sure you recognize one of the most famous quotes by Gandalf the Grey himself. I always think about this, or at least its meaning, when I'm in a stressful situation. Are there any other quotes that help calm people down when they're feeling overwhelmed?
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    How do you get to sleep?

    I remember my Lit teacher in high school telling me that she tries to focus on building her dream house to fall asleep, and I've always thought that was so interesting. I personally try to tell a story in my head, but what other methods do people use to fall asleep, especially when you're having...
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    What do you do when upset?

    I remember learning that one of the things that you should advise someone to do after some traumatic event is to simply do what they normally would do to relax. That was proven to better reduce the risk of PTSD than forcing them to talk through it right afterwards or making them follow some...
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    Individual vs. The Family

    Thank you so much for your reply. I'll definitely keep this mind moving forward!
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    Favorite books!

    If you like sci-fi, I would look into books by Ursula K. Le Guin. She's my all-time favorite sci-fi author, and I would recommend The Left Hand of Darkness, if you're looking for something weird, and The Dispossessed if you're feeling philosophical. I've also been into David Mitchell lately...
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    Thoughts on using the first language while teaching ESL?

    What do people think of using someone's first language while you're trying to teach him/or a second language? This might be a level thing, but if so, at what point do you think the teacher should speak only in the second language? For example, if I was teaching conversational English to a Korean...
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    When you had a setback how did you handle it?

    I pretty much have the same mindset. I'm usually a "go with the flow" kind of person, so when I have a setback, I simply tend to pursue a different path. Recently, however, I experienced a number of setbacks trying achieve this one goal, and I really had to grit my teeth to make it happen. I...
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    Hello Chinese vs. Duolingo

    I'm currently trying to learn Chinese, and at first, I was using Duolingo. After a while, I started using an app called Hello Chinese instead, but I wanted to know which app other people thought was better. If you think a different app is even better than these two, then I would love to know...
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    If You Can't Say Something Nice...

    I think the quote could be looked at a different way. Instead of saying that unhappy thoughts and feelings shouldn't be voiced at all, I think the quote can still be upheld if they are voiced, but in a manner that doesn't intentionally provoke the other party. This can be exhibited in stuff like...
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    Why do you learn languages?

    I'm a native English speaker, and I learned to speak in Korean so that I can communicate with my family better. I'm really bad at writing in it, since I don't feel a need to do that too often. Similarly, I tried to learn French for many years, but I did it more as just another class to take at...
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    Article about Buddhism, meditation

    Wow, this is actually a point of view, or cognitive practice, I do for myself. After studying psychology for so long, I know I shouldn't label people in such a one dimensional way; for example, as that jerky cashier. I don't think it's wrong to feel that in the moment, since we are designed to...
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    Individual vs. The Family

    I'm an Asian American in her early twenties, and I'm currently trying to figure out how to deal with a sudden clash of values between me and my mom. She expects me to stay and support her as her daughter now that I've graduated college, especially since she's going through some tough times right...
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    Being Conscious of the Present

    I have personally never read Eckhart Tolle, but I really like this message of focusing on the present moment. I use a similar method, except I also find it useful to take deep, calming breaths first. Afterwards, I try to describe what I'm feeling, hearing, and seeing right then. I imagine myself...